Kerrie Woodhouse

Whimsical words and watercolour

How to Savour your Way to Greater Happiness

Series of the MonthKerrie Woodhouse

I have been painting from photos that I took on a visit to the Rhododendron Gardens near me.

This photo habit seems to be something we all share these days. Part of the joy of always having a rather impressive camera with you wherever you go.

But what do we do with all those photos?

 
Rhododendron Gardens no 10- (Watercolour on paper, 4.5"x 6")

Rhododendron Gardens no 10- (Watercolour on paper, 4.5"x 6")

 

Sometimes I wonder if we miss soaking in the beautiful sights directly because we are so busy viewing them through the camera lens.

On the other hand, I am delighted by the thought that in wanting to take a photo we are celebrating the tiny delights of our everyday lives.

The desire to record and collect them has to be a very good thing.

 
Rhododendron Gardens no 5 (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12"

Rhododendron Gardens no 5 (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12"

 

As good as our cameras are though, there is always that little something that the camera just can’t quite capture.

The warm breeze on our skin, the burst of sunlight through the branches that makes you squint, and the faint smell of damp earth. These are the things I remember when I paint. The camera may not be able to capture these things, but perhaps the painter can.

 
Rhododendron Gardens no 1 (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12"

Rhododendron Gardens no 1 (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12"

 

Actually, I’m not sure it matters if the painter succeeds or not in that regard. Time spent revisiting the happy places and memories is never wasted. The whole point I think, is the painting experience.

Connecting wth your subject through observation and memory using all your senses if you can is just plain good for you.

Perhaps you will turn out a masterpiece, perhaps you won’t, but either way I bet you’ll feel just that little bit happier.

 
Rhododendron Gardens no 2 (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

Rhododendron Gardens no 2 (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

 

To paint a thing, you have to really look at it it. The mass of giant blooms of the rhododendron bush is a joy. Take a closer look and you see that each flower is actually a clusters of blooms - a composite flower.

Every blossom a collection of many individually wonderful flowers, each a marvel on their own.

 
Rhododendron Gardens no 4 - (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

Rhododendron Gardens no 4 - (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

 

To me, each one is like a little party.

And what’s better than a party? Lots of parties on a huge single shrub.

What is better than a party shrub? A whole garden of party shrubs.

Yes indeed a celebratory place to be.

 
Rhododendron Gardens no 7 (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

Rhododendron Gardens no 7 (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

 

Choosing the images from my photos let me think about all the best aspects of the garden and of the day. Stunning blue skies peeping over the top of sunlit blossoms.

So many textures in the different foliage.

 
Rhododendron Gardens no 6 (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

Rhododendron Gardens no 6 (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

 

Ridiculously frilly edges to some petals, variegations on some leaves and for me, possibly best of all the abstract shadow shapes.

I do love a shadow. I love the light -that is the thing that inspires me to paint most of all. Often, the best way to show the light is to paint the shadows.

When you paint something, it is important to connect with what it is about that subject that you like enough to want to paint it. That thing that intrigues, fascinates or delights you. What painting is doing then, is helping us to savour the best moments.

Psychology researchers have shown that having an opportunity to savour the past helps us to be nostalgic and positive about that experience as well as helping us to be more optimistic about the future.

Learning to savour the good moments is a very useful tool in our happiness arsenal.

I have to say that certainly matches my experience painting this Rhododendron Garden series. Sure, I haven’t forgotten the part where the kids were bickering their way up the hill. But as I paint, I can smile more about that and let it fade gently while I remember the sunshine and the laughing more.

 
Rhododendron Gardens no 3 (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

Rhododendron Gardens no 3 (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

 

Painting the parts of the day that brought the joy then, brings the joy now, perhaps more.

If you can have compound interest, perhaps you can have compound joy?

 
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Fascinating facts you didn't know about elephants

Series of the MonthKerrie Woodhouse

Did you know that elephants purr? Yes, a bit like a cat!

I learned so much investigating my painting subject for this month’s series. They are such magnificent creatures you can’t really help being curious, can you?

 
Elephants no 1 - (Watercolour marker on paper, 5.8"x 8.3")

Elephants no 1 - (Watercolour marker on paper, 5.8"x 8.3")

 

Aside from the iconic trumpet blast that we know, elephants not only purr but are thought to communicate with one another over long distances using a subsonic rumble. These messages travel faster over the ground than sound through air and are detected through their feet and trunks.

 
Elephants no 4 - (Watercolour marker on paper, 5.8"x 8.3")

Elephants no 4 - (Watercolour marker on paper, 5.8"x 8.3")

 

Elephants are the only mammal that cannot jump. And even when they run (which they can do at up to 25miles (40km) per hour) they always keep one foot on the ground at all times.

So maybe that’s how you get to be a symbol of groundedness and wisdom….

 
Elephants no 7 - (Watercolour marker on paper, 5.8"x 8.3")

Elephants no 7 - (Watercolour marker on paper, 5.8"x 8.3")

 

Elephant tusks are continually growing, so the older the elephant the longer the tusk. Just like most of us, elephants are not ambidextrous. A ‘righty’ will wear down the right hand tusk quicker than the left as they favour it for picking things up, stripping leaves from trees or fighting.

 
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I can’t say I ever thought much about elephant toes until now, but did you know that elephants actually walk on their toes? Yes, big as they are research shows that they put the most pressure on the outer toes of their front feet and the least amount of pressure on their heels as they walk.

Asian elephants might have smaller tusks, but they actually have an extra toenail on each foot compared to African elephants. All elephants have one more toenail on the front feet than they do on the back feet.

 
Elephants no 3 - (Watercolour marker on paper, 5.8"x 8.3")

Elephants no 3 - (Watercolour marker on paper, 5.8"x 8.3")

 

We all have our weaknesses, but did you know that the mighty elephant’s weakness is the humble bee?

Apparently elephants are instinctively afraid of bees. (I just decided I love them even more.) Conservationists use this to their advantage by placing bee hives around land that they need to keep elephants clear of.

 
Elephants no 2 - (Watercolour marker on paper, 5.8"x 8.3")

Elephants no 2 - (Watercolour marker on paper, 5.8"x 8.3")

 

A fear of bees feels like a very human thing to me, and it is not the only human-like trait that elephants exhibit. They are very social creatures that form tight knit family groups lead by the oldest, often largest female. Go girls.

They are remarkably caring creatures. When a baby elephant cries all of the herd will go and tend to it, not just the mother. They also greet other herd members with touch, even wrapping their trunks around each other.

 
Elephants no 6- (Watercolour marker on paper, 5.8"x 8.3")

Elephants no 6- (Watercolour marker on paper, 5.8"x 8.3")

 

Elephants grieve. When one of the herd dies they show signs of sadness and grief and they mourn the loss of the loved one for many years after passing. Using their feet and trunks they gently touch the skulls and tusks in homage when they come across the bones of their dead.

When an elephants passes through a place where a loved one once died, it will stop. Its silent pause of remembrance can last for several minutes.

 
Elephants no 6- (Watercolour marker on paper, 5.8"x 8.3")

Elephants no 6- (Watercolour marker on paper, 5.8"x 8.3")

 

Elephants certainly are one of the world’s treasures. There is something so special about them which I don’t think I can do justice with words, but Peter Matheisson did.

There is mystery behind that masked gray visage, and ancient life force, delicate and mighty, awesome and enchanted, commanding the silence ordinarily reserved for mountain peaks, great fires, and the sea.
— Peter Matheisson

I have spent a thoroughly lovely month learning about them and painting them.

Want to paint elephants with me?

I chose very simple supplies making these elephants an easy painting project even if you are new to watercolour or a reluctant sketcher.

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Where do you get your creative inspiration?

art tipsKerrie Woodhouse

Apparently if you ask Neil Gaiman where ideas come from he might just say something like, "a little shop near Bognor Regis". For inspired creatives who produce consistently it seems to be something of a tiresome question. Hmm, must be hard for them. But what do us lesser mortals do?

Well, as far as I can see, the difference between consistent creative producers and those of us asking these sorts of questions is that the producers have figured out how to 'show up'. 

 
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You see it’s a bit like that witty comeback. You think of the best one liner - somewhere between a few hours and a few days later, don't you? You had to have the snarky encounter and then give your brain a bit of time to work on a suitable response. Same with writing, same with painting, or any creative work for that matter.  It’s only when you engage yourself in the physical act of doing the creating that the wheels start turning.

Don't have great expectations of that first effort or two, however. Remember your comeback line? The first thing your brain came up with on the spot was probably something close to, "I know you are, but what am I?" Then, instantly recognising that some improvement was possible, your brain kept grinding away churning out pithy alternatives until, at last - perfection! (Too late of course, but a perfect reply, nonetheless.) 

So the trick is to create. Want inspiration and ideas? Show up.

That's when you get inspired. And also improve your skills, problem solve, not to mention just plain old enjoying the process of creating. Writing, drawing, basket weaving - doesn’t matter. It applies across them all. Begin the process. Enjoy the process. Let the product begin its evolution into something better and better.

 
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You see, it’s science. There's this thing called the Reticular Activating System in your brain. It sets out collecting bits of data from your world that match whatever it thinks you are looking for. If it is a witty comeback line then all of a sudden snippets of eavesdropped conversation, Seinfeld reruns and newspaper letters to the editor all seem to appear with some relevant insights, feeding into your creative problem solving machinery.

So it is with any other creation. The difference between composing a witty retort and writing a novel or painting a picture is simply a matter of scale.

But back to that question regarding the source of inspiration for a moment. The answer is you. Your world and everything you experience. Anything that touches your heart in any way.

You swim in a sea of inspiration. In fact, there is so much of it that you can't see the wood for the trees. Only when you begin - something - anything, do you give the Reticular Activating System its command to seek. Then like a bloodhound on a scent trail it is off, filtering and collecting salient pieces of your world to inspire your creation.

Now, I'm not saying showing up is easy. But it is better to have a more practical step to take as opposed to waiting for some sort of mystical holy grail of ideas to be revealed. 

There are pitfalls, like of course, that inner critic poised to speak out as soon as creation begins, if not before. But whatever form your creative work takes, your job is to get started.

Put pen to blank page, apply fingertips to keyboard, clay to the wheel. Dip your brush in the paint and get it moving.

 
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Over the years I have come up with a process to prime myself for any studio time. (I have inventively named this My Prime Process.) It is the best way I know of helping me to Show Up. It addresses nearly all my objections and gets me working. I do it first, before I start painting anything else or even writing. But I have also found that it serves so many other purposes.

Find your way to get started.

Then do it.

You never know where it might get you.

Looking for more tips about showing up in your art practice? I have an online class that’s got you covered - click here to find out more about it.

 
 

Fresh Flowers and Fresh Starts

Series of the MonthKerrie Woodhouse

Fresh flowers are a joy to paint. Their sweet little faces are such a thing of hope. At the time of writing this it is spring so there is an abundance of new blooms about.

 
Fresh Flowers no 1 Spring is Here - (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

Fresh Flowers no 1 Spring is Here - (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

 

But the reality is that new blooms appear year round. Seemingly eternal geraniums, marigolds in summer and plumbago in autumn. Even snow will not deter the little snowdrop.

 
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It is this relentless optimism that I adore. The stuff of fresh starts. An endless string of new beginnings if necessary.

There is such relief in that idea, isn’t there? 

 
Fresh Flowers no 4 Leucadendron - (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

Fresh Flowers no 4 Leucadendron - (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

 

These little blooms remind me of the persistence of hope. They seem to prove that there is always the chance to begin again.

 
Fresh Flowers no 5 - (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

Fresh Flowers no 5 - (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

 

Doesn’t it always seem like there is a new habit you are trying to form?

From a consistent sketchbook practice, to a daily step goal or learning to meditate there is always something to be working towards.

 
Fresh Flowers no 7 Abundance (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

Fresh Flowers no 7 Abundance (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

 

A good thing, of course, to be constantly improving. Conventional wisdom is to make sure you don’t ‘break the chain’ as Jerry Seinfeld famously counselled.

 
Fresh Flowers no 3 Vase of Carnations (Watercolour, on paper 9"x12")

Fresh Flowers no 3 Vase of Carnations (Watercolour, on paper 9"x12")

 

That’s sound advice, of course. Doesn’t make you feel marvellous when that chain does break though. With the best will in the world, life happens. So we also need a helpful way to approach this rather likely eventuality.

I think it is this - the important thing is not that the chain has broken but how quickly a new one begins.

You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.
— Mary Pickford
 
Fresh Flowers no 2 - (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

Fresh Flowers no 2 - (Watercolour on paper, 9"x 12")

 

Let’s take a cue from nature and remember that a fresh start is always there for the taking.

The chance to begin again.

No guilt at having faltered, just hopeful persistence.

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Is your inner critic preventing you from doing your creative work?

art tipsKerrie Woodhouse

I know. You have this little creative itch to scratch. Plans of starting a sketchbook practice, journalling regularly, getting back into painting or dusting off that guitar.

But somehow actually Doing The Thing just doesn't happen.  Life seems to get in the way. All other things seem to declare themselves more important than your creative urges. And if you do manage to tip toe towards starting there's that little voice that pipes up as soon as your first tentative steps are taken. She's mean, that voice, isn't she?

She is your inner critic, and fear not, everyone has one. Some are just noisier than others. Perhaps some are just better managed. I spent so much time listening to mine especially when I first started learning to draw and paint. Such constant companions were we that I even drew her once. Want to see?

 
 

Since we spent so much time together it seemed only logical that we should be on a first name basis. I call her Aunt Enid, and she's a bit of a shrew. And yes, in my head she wears a stiff, scary matron's uniform and scowls a lot.

Even though I really wanted to make some art, I seemed to do an awful lot of procrastinating. The creative urge would tug, but somehow I always managed to find an excuse to put it off. Aunt Enid would pipe up as soon as I thought of  getting out my art supplies. 

Shouldn't you be doing something more useful... laundry, perhaps?

Isn't it a bit late to start learning to be an artist?

I thought this would stop once I was a bit more accomplished (who knows what I thought that might mean - let’s not forget that art is subjective). Thing is, you can only get more accomplished by actually doing some art. But when you have this nagging doubt that you are not good enough at it you tend to find anything but art to do. 

 
 

It's self protection really. What we call the inner critic that pipes up with all that judgement is really a well meaning part of us that is trying to save us embarrassment or hurt. So well intentioned, but misguided because it's just paper and paint after all and you don't need to show anybody. 

And allowing yourself some time for creative expression is good for your soul. It can be a restorative, replenishing sort of activity that actually leaves you better equiped to return to your regular responsibilities and activities.

One of the things I have learned about the inner critic is that she doesn't go away. But actually, since she does have my best interests at heart, perhaps that is as it should be.

For a while, I laboured under the delusion that the inner critic was a beginner's problem and that I would overcome it eventually. Now I think that that is partially true. The inner critic is a lifelong companion, she is family. So like a crotchety old aunt who might be a bit mean, the best thing to do is to figure out how to manage her. Want to know how I did it?

I made you a free workbook that steps you through my approach. 

Creativity is such a great practice ground for so many things. Managing the inner critic is just one. For I’m not sure if you have noticed but that critical voice that pipes up about your drawing is the same one that has opinions on how you are managing your life in general, your level of fitness and waistline, your forgetfulness … you know what I mean.

So learning to work with her, or perhaps in spite of her, in the sketchbook is great practice for managing any of the other negative self talk that creeps in to other parts of your life.

 
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When I first started drawing, or rather wanting to draw, I spent so long shuffling paper, wondering what to draw, researching different types of paint and so on because I didn’t want to hear want Aunt Enid had to say about my efforts. But giving in like that is like failing before you begin. 

 
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If you know what I mean, and need some help taming your inner critic grab the free workbook now, so that you can get back to creating today.

The Meaning of Home

Series of the MonthKerrie Woodhouse

The first home I painted this month was so nestled in its environment. As though the trees and gardens held the home in a safe embrace, much like the walls of the home hug the familiy within.

 
Home no 1 - Nestled (Pen and Wash, on paper, 6"x 8")

Home no 1 - Nestled (Pen and Wash, on paper, 6"x 8")

 

That’s what home is to me.

Layers of comfort and security.

Safety and belonging. A place where all is familiar and you have what you need.

 
Home no 2 - Belong (Pen and Wash, on paper 6 x 8 inches)

Home no 2 - Belong (Pen and Wash, on paper 6 x 8 inches)

 

Cozy places to curl up with a book. The smell of a chicken roasting in the oven. The chatter and laughter of children over the soft purr of the ever churning washing machine.  

 
Home no 10 - Sheltered (Pen and wash, on paper 6 x 8 inches)

Home no 10 - Sheltered (Pen and wash, on paper 6 x 8 inches)

 

Home is where you find your way easily even in the dark, you know every part of it like the back of your hand.

 
Home no 6 Hilltop (Pen and Wash on paper 6 x 8 inches)

Home no 6 Hilltop (Pen and Wash on paper 6 x 8 inches)

 

Your hand drops the keys in the bowl by the door, of its own accord, never missing despite your lack of attention to the task, so well do you know the space and your place in it.

 
Home no 3 Snug (Pen and Wash on paper, 6"x 8")

Home no 3 Snug (Pen and Wash on paper, 6"x 8")

 

Skipping the stair that squeaks is such second nature you don't even realise you are doing it.

 
Home no 4 Welcome (Pen and Wash, on paper 6"x8")

Home no 4 Welcome (Pen and Wash, on paper 6"x8")

 

Because of this comfortable familiarity with the physical building and its contents, it's easy to start thinking that it is the house itself that is the home.

 
Home no 8 - Safe (Pen and wash, on paper 6 x 8 inches)

Home no 8 - Safe (Pen and wash, on paper 6 x 8 inches)

 

But I have moved around so much I have learned that it is not the physical space that makes the home. 

 
Home no 5 Sanctuary (Pen and Wash, on Paper, 6"x 8")

Home no 5 Sanctuary (Pen and Wash, on Paper, 6"x 8")

 

Surprising, really how quickly we can start applying the label home to an unfamiliar space. 

 
Home no 9 Retreat (Pend and Wash, on Paper, 6"x 8")

Home no 9 Retreat (Pend and Wash, on Paper, 6"x 8")

 

The sanctuary of home is an idea - a feeling that is made in our hearts and minds. It is when we bring that feeling to the bricks and mortar that accommodate us and let it breathe life into the space that the shell can become the embodiment of our home. 

 
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It's okay to stay in your comfort zone

Series of the MonthKerrie Woodhouse

I saw a meme the other day that said:

“Everything you want is just outside your comfort zone”

Hmmm everything?… 

I have to disagree.  I have to reject the idea that I am in a state of wanting and that I will have to be uncomfortable, seemingly interminably.

The quickest way to happiness is to want what you already have.

Sure, there will always be more to aim for but I believe this is best achieved from a place of grateful contentment.

 
Giraffes no 1 - Solo (Watercolour on paper, 8"x11")

Giraffes no 1 - Solo (Watercolour on paper, 8"x11")

 

I know that the sentiment that was intended by the statement that everything you want is just outside your comfort zone, was one of motivation and encouragement to be bold, brave and adventurous. Take risks and try new things. With that I agree wholeheartedly. But let’s use those words or something like them that feels good to you.

 
Giraffes no 7 - Come here often? (Watercolour on paper 6 x 8 inches)

Giraffes no 7 - Come here often? (Watercolour on paper 6 x 8 inches)

 

Recently I have spent a lot of time thinking about the words we use in our own heads and out loud. Words evoke feelings - that is their power. And our feelings drive our actions. Important then, to put a bit of thought into what we say and how we say it.

Rather than saying everything you want is outside your comfort zone let's say something like:


I am bold, brave and adventurous
Everything I want comes to me

Doesn’t that feel better? 

 
Giraffes no 9 - Heads in the Clouds (Watercolour on paper 6.5 x 10 inches)

Giraffes no 9 - Heads in the Clouds (Watercolour on paper 6.5 x 10 inches)

 

Trying something new, or going through something challenging is going to feel a bit uncomfortable, awkward perhaps. Coming from a positive mindset of grace and gratitude rather than of want and struggle gives us a far greater chance of success.

The giraffe is my new mascot for this idea. Spending a month painting them gave me a fond appreciation for the way they seem to blend awkwardness and grace so masterfully.

A giraffe is a glorious feat of anatomical engineering. The thing that makes the giraffe unique, different and amazing also makes it rather awkward in many situations. 

 
Giraffe 6  I Do It My Way (Watercolour on paper, 6.5"x11")

Giraffe 6  I Do It My Way (Watercolour on paper, 6.5"x11")

 

To dip your head into the watering hole is a simple thing for most of its other bush companions but the giraffe has had to inventively learn to straddle their legs to do this. It’s a mental picture that has stayed with me this month as I painted them.

If you can’t do something the way others seem to do it, maybe that’s okay - you’ll find your own way. That’ll work too.

Those long legs seem so delicate to be carrying around that towering structure, I always think. It looks so ungainly. And then you see the giraffe break into a gentle canter and all awkwardness is gone, there is such grace in the motion. Much like the undulating serpentine sweep of the neck as the giraffe moves its head around.

 
Giraffe no 4 Leaning In (Watercolour on Paper, 6.5"x11")

Giraffe no 4 Leaning In (Watercolour on Paper, 6.5"x11")

 

Perhaps the blend of awkwardness and grace is something that all creatures contend with. Things within the comfort zone and things just beyond it. But I cannot subscribe to the idea everything has to be ‘uncomfortable’.

 
Giraffes no 5 - Seated (Watercolour on paper 8.5 x 11 inches)

Giraffes no 5 - Seated (Watercolour on paper 8.5 x 11 inches)

 

We do our best when we feel good. In that state we do better at creative thinking and problem solving. We are a bit more resilient and resourceful. When we try to force ourselves to do something terribly uncomfortable by sheer strength of will we are not at our best.

Taking on a bit of a challenge is great, but we do have to be able to feel good about it in some way if we are to have any hope of being successful at it. A mindset of force and struggle and hustle does not predispose us to success.

 
Giraffes no 8 What a Pair (Watercolour on Paper, 6.5"x 11")

Giraffes no 8 What a Pair (Watercolour on Paper, 6.5"x 11")

 

This whole comfort zone idea really explains a lot about why I choose to work in these monthly series, come to think of it.

You see I realised some time ago that in staying with a subject and a medium for a while (ie working in a series) is really important for giving yourself a chance to practice learn and get better at something. But, if I stuck with one subject I know I would be bored and stagnant before too long.

So for me these monthly series are my way of stepping out of my comfort zone at the start of each month, and then giving myself the rest of the month to become increasingly comfortable.

 
Giraffes no 3 Mother and Baby (Watercolour on Paper, 8"x11")

Giraffes no 3 Mother and Baby (Watercolour on Paper, 8"x11")

 

I want to feel at ease, and competent at what I’m doing. In fact I need it, don't we all?

It is during these times that you build trust in yourself that there are things that you are good at, that you are capable and proficient. This trust is the basis of the self belief you need when you do step outside your comfort zone. It gives you some foundation for backing yourself in a new endeavour.

Such memories are important when you clamber awkwardly into something new.

 
Giraffe no 2 Looking at You (Watercolour on Paper, 8.5"x 8.5")

Giraffe no 2 Looking at You (Watercolour on Paper, 8.5"x 8.5")

 

Stepping outside your comfort zone is all very well - every so often.

But moments of comfortable competence are to be savoured too. 

 
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Managing anxiety with a trip to the beach

Series of the MonthKerrie Woodhouse

A beach holiday is definitely my favourite kind of holiday.

A chance to step out of your life for a bit and watch the world go by for a bit instead of hurrying to try and keep up with it.

Days filled with time at the beach and the pool and no more complicated decision to make in each day than what to have for dinner. Bliss. This always gives me a bit of perspective on my life. 

 
Beach Holiday no 2 - Boys will be Boys (Watercolour on paper, 8"x11")

Beach Holiday no 2 - Boys will be Boys (Watercolour on paper, 8"x11")

 

I like to walk on the beach at sunrise and sunset. I love the way the the rising tide smooths all those footprints and holes and leftover sandcastles. It clears the deck ready for the new day.

I always think that all the fretful, worried or anxious thoughts I have had that day are just like those mounds and indentations on the beach.

They are not permanent, they are just thoughts. They can be swept away and I can choose new ones, if I try… 

 
Beach Holiday no 1 - A Girl and Her Sandcastle (Watercolour on paper 8 x 11 inches

Beach Holiday no 1 - A Girl and Her Sandcastle (Watercolour on paper 8 x 11 inches

 

I love to watch my children, totally absorbed in this moment, this wave, this sandcastle - right now.

That’s more like it.

 
 

Anxiety and depression are symptoms of being worried about the future and stuck in the past, respectively. Personally I have known them both, perhaps you do to. ( I read the other day that one in three Australian women and one in five Australian men experience anxiety, so it's not just us).  This is why learning to be present is so important - a way to avoid these both.

 
Beach Holiday no 6 Seek the birds (Watercolour on Paper, 8"x11")

Beach Holiday no 6 Seek the birds (Watercolour on Paper, 8"x11")

 

It's funny how starting out with such well meaning intentions, like trying to be prepared can end up in a panic state if you don’t notice what is happening. Because that is where my anxiety comes from - always trying to be ultra prepared.

To me this means running all the possible worst case scenarios I can think of so as to come up with a possible solution. I am naturally risk averse, which I then compounded by becoming an auditor which is really just intense training for figuring out what could go wrong.

By now, I am pretty brilliant at it. 

 
Beach Holiday no 7 Mini seascape (Watercolour on Paper, 2.5"x 3.5")

Beach Holiday no 7 Mini seascape (Watercolour on Paper, 2.5"x 3.5")

 

90% of the thoughts you have today are the same ones you had yesterday, apparently. So if most of those were worst case scenario sort of situations and these are the thoughts that are constantly repeated, a sense of impending doom is bound to be colouring your entire view of the world. 

 
Beach Holiday no 3 Family Walk (Watercolour on Paper, 8"x11")

Beach Holiday no 3 Family Walk (Watercolour on Paper, 8"x11")

 

So I picture the sea, or even better I paint it, and remember that I can let those thoughts be washed away. For every worst case scenario that crosses my mind I am now trying to train myself to come up with a best case version. For every ebb, there is sure to be a flow.

 
Beach Holiday no 4 Can't Catch Me!  (Watercolour on Paper, 8"x 11")

Beach Holiday no 4 Can't Catch Me!  (Watercolour on Paper, 8"x 11")

 

One of the most helpful things I found is a hypnosis track that came with a book called Control Stress by Paul McKenna - I have had it for years. The best line for me in the whole thing is the part where he says he would like to thank that part of my mind that worries for all the good it is trying to do. Funny that such a simple acknowledgement from a voice on recording should bring such relief but it did.

 
Beach Holiday no 9 Mini Beach (Watercolour on Paper, 2.5"x 3.5")

Beach Holiday no 9 Mini Beach (Watercolour on Paper, 2.5"x 3.5")

 

Does it make you feel better? 

I hope so.

Because given my realisation that it is my worrying about the future (aka things that haven’t happened) that creates the anxiety I find it is easy to start feeling a bit foolish about what would then seem a self inflicted problem. Acknowledging that it came from such a good place helps me feel less ridiculous.

In this hypnosis track, Paul McKenna not only thanks that part of the mind that is worrying but also thanks the mind for coming up with new ways of doing this good work that don't involve worrying. He even says you don't need to know what those ways are. Seems a bit odd, but somehow it really helps. 

 
Beach Holiday no 8 Twins (Watercolour on Paper 8" x 11")

Beach Holiday no 8 Twins (Watercolour on Paper 8" x 11")

 

If you are curious, this is the link to Paul's book on Amazon (affiliate link). The book comes with the hypnosis track that I have been talking about.

And if you are looking for more anxiety management strategies to try you might want to explore these suggestions from Beyond Blue. All good suggestions of course, but my favourite anxiety buster (beach trips aside) is painting.

Best therapy ever.... please give it a try!

 
Beach Holiday no 5 Jump! (Watercolour on Paper 8" x 11")

Beach Holiday no 5 Jump! (Watercolour on Paper 8" x 11")

 

Stand out to fit in

Series of the MonthKerrie Woodhouse

A little while ago I painted a series of tiny little birds and they got me thinking about the sort of big showy birds that usually get a lot of attention.

I thought they would be fun to paint with big splashes of bold colour - I was right - so much fun!

 
Dramatic Birds no 2 - Peacock (Watercolour on paper, 9"x12")

Dramatic Birds no 2 - Peacock (Watercolour on paper, 9"x12")

 

Spend some time observing these dramatic birds and before long you realise you are watching self confidence in action. 

 
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These birds seem to be like poster kids for self belief. 

"Be your bold, dramatic self," they seem to say. "Stand out and show your plumage."

 
Dramatic Birds no 9 Helio Swan (Watercolour on paper, 9"x12")

Dramatic Birds no 9 Helio Swan (Watercolour on paper, 9"x12")

 

We do spend a lot of time doing our best to fit in, to conform, at various times in our life. It can seem easier to try to just be the same as everyone else. Hide your differences to be left in peace to go about your business, rather than the pressure of  standing out and being seen. 

 
Dramatic Birds no 6 Peacock Tail (Watercolour on Paper, 9"x12")

Dramatic Birds no 6 Peacock Tail (Watercolour on Paper, 9"x12")

 

But these glorious birds are a colourful reminder that there is value in being bold, standing in your power, letting your freak flag fly!

Just like the peacock with his magnificent tail, or the flamingo with its crazy colour.

 
Dramatic Birds no 8 On My Way! (Watercolour on Paper, 9"x12")

Dramatic Birds no 8 On My Way! (Watercolour on Paper, 9"x12")

 

And then I started painting these birds together. A pair of flamingos... then a whole flock of them.

 
Dramatic Birds no 7 Flamingo Love (Watercolour on Paper, 9"x12")

Dramatic Birds no 7 Flamingo Love (Watercolour on Paper, 9"x12")

 

That's when I realised that as much as we might think we are unique special snowflakes and perhaps try to hide that to fit in, it is inevitable that with so many people in the world there will be others just like you - no matter how different you feel. 

 
Dramatic Birds no 5 Swan (Watercolour on Paper, 9"x12")

Dramatic Birds no 5 Swan (Watercolour on Paper, 9"x12")

 

It is only when you are brave enough to show the parts of you that seem outrageous to you that you will find them.

Far better to be you and find your own flock than hide your true self to fit in to the one you happen to find yourself in.

 
Dramatic Birds no 10 Flamingo Party (Watercolour on Paper, 9"x12")

Dramatic Birds no 10 Flamingo Party (Watercolour on Paper, 9"x12")

 
Find out who you are and do it on purpose.
— Dolly Parton
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Do you have a secret unlived life?

Series of the MonthKerrie Woodhouse

Do you love an intriguing pathway?

Me too.

I love a garden path with little delights hidden round each bend.  That's what I have been painting recently.

 
Garden Path no 3 - Lavender walk (Watercolour on paper, 9"x12")

Garden Path no 3 - Lavender walk (Watercolour on paper, 9"x12")

 

We are all naturally curious, aren't we?

Sometimes it's a light on the horizon that draws us in. 

 
Garden Path no 8 Sunlit Bend (Watercolour on paper, 9"x12")

Garden Path no 8 Sunlit Bend (Watercolour on paper, 9"x12")

 

Or the invitation of an open gate.

Actually, even a closed gate has a certain allure. Surely, whatever is locked behind a gate must be worthy of further investigation.

 
Garden Path no 4 Lavender Gate (Watercolour on Paper, 9"x12")

Garden Path no 4 Lavender Gate (Watercolour on Paper, 9"x12")

 

I have been painting these garden paths all month and I cant help thinking about the paths that lie before all of us.

We have so many choices, so many paths to take. Best to let our curiosity be our guide.  Listen to the whispers of our hearts and choose to bravely take the paths that beckon.

 
Garden Path no 9 Tulip Path (ACEO Watercolour on Paper, 2.5"x3.5")

Garden Path no 9 Tulip Path (ACEO Watercolour on Paper, 2.5"x3.5")

 

For beckon they do.

The wishes and dreams that we don't pursue don’t leave us. We may stop talking about them and we get on with the business of adult things. While fears and doubts may also do their bit to dampen the call, the little voice is always there, tempting you down the path. 

 
Garden Path no 7 Shaded Bench (Watercolour on Paper, 9"x12")

Garden Path no 7 Shaded Bench (Watercolour on Paper, 9"x12")

 

Stop awhile on your current path and make sure that what you see before you still fills you with joy.

Or is there something you put on your 'Someday' list that just might be better? 

 
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What are your secret dreams of things you still want  to do, be, learn or explore?

Start today. It's the things we don’t do that we regret.

The only thing worse than starting something and failing... is not starting something.
— Seth Godin
 
Garden Path no 2 Flowering Sentinels (Watercolour on Paper 9"x12")

Garden Path no 2 Flowering Sentinels (Watercolour on Paper 9"x12")

 

Follow your curiosity down the path that beckons.

For to carry around your secret unlived life is a heavy burden indeed.

 
Garden Path no 1 Bouganvillea Steps (Watercolour on Paper 9"x12")

Garden Path no 1 Bouganvillea Steps (Watercolour on Paper 9"x12")

 
I will not die an unlived life
I will not live in fear
of falling or catching fire.
I choose to inhabit my days,
to allow my living to open me,
to make me less afraid,
more accessible,
to loosen my heart 
until it becomes a wing,
a torch, a promise.
I choose to risk my significance;
to live so that which came to me as seed
goes to the next as blossom
and that which came to me as blossom,
goes on as fruit.
— Dawna Markova

Do you have too many plump and juicy ideas?

Series of the MonthKerrie Woodhouse

Berries and seeds are tiny symbols of hope and possibility - don't you think?  I love that something so small can be so mighty. From a tiny little seed a whole new plant can come to be - nature’s everyday magic.

 
 

From the tiniest acorn grows a mighty oak.

Only it doesn’t have to.

Not every acorn will become a tree. We do not judge those acorns that don't end up transforming themselves. 

We see their fascinating shapes and textures and delight in their current stage. They are valuable just as they are, right now.

We don't see their worth as conditional on what they might become.

 
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“When we plant a rose seed in the earth, we notice that it is small, but we do not criticize it as “rootless and stemless.” We treat it as a seed, giving it the water and nourishment required of a seed. When it first shoots up out of the earth, we don’t condemn it as immature and underdeveloped; nor do we criticize the buds for not being open when they appear. We stand in wonder at the process taking place and give the plant the care it needs at each stage of its development. The rose is a rose from the time it is a seed to the time it dies. Within it, at all times, it contains its whole potential. It seems to be constantly in the process of change; yet at each state, at each moment, it is perfectly all right as it is.”
— W. Timothy Gallwey, The Inner Game of Tennis: The Classic Guide to the Mental Side of Peak Performance
 
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Those little seeds and berries remind me of all the ideas we have and the projects we begin. A new idea is exciting - as plump and juicy and wonderful as a berry. So is every book we add to our reading lists and every online course we begin.

 
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But just like those seeds, not every idea will manifest its largest form. We enjoy an abundance of new books and courses, ideas and projects - more of these are available than we have the resources for. That’s okay. Nature shows us that this is simply the natural way of things.

 
 

There is value in beginnings: the burst of enthusiasm, the creative zeal that sparks us into action. The joy of possibility is enough.

Some of our ideas and projects will see completion. It’s okay that we probably don't know which ones they are at the outset.

 
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Many seeds fall from the tree. Only the passing of time and allowing events to unfold can determine which ones will will flourish. And since we don't know which ones will flourish we need them all.

 
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Unfinished projects, or forgotten ideas are not wasted, they are a part of the process. They all have a role - it just might not be the one you expected. Some are stepping stones, some are just practice. Some are for exploration and help you find your way by a process of elimination.

Revel in the abundance of all your beginnings. Please don't berate yourself for the ones that didn't appear to go anywhere.

Let them go in the knowledge that they are enough just as they are.

 
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Find your resting places

Series of the MonthKerrie Woodhouse

There is something so enticing about a quiet bench in a beautiful spot. It is an invitation to stop even just for a moment, to take a breath and slow down.

 
 

No charging port or wifi necessary. Bet we all need to do a bit more of that. If we have become so busy that we feel we do not have the time to sit still for a moment, is that really progress?

 
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Do we see time spent sitting in quiet contemplation or even staring into space, thinking about nothing in particular as a waste these days?

 
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That would be a sad thing. Our 24 7 world of instant gratification and permanent connectedness is a world of constant activity. Perhaps it is encouraging us to forget  our  respect for the natural ebb and flow of daily life.

 
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Like day and night, like the rise and fall of the tide, we need the still parts of our day just as much as we need all that motion. One feeds the other, they are equally important. 

 
 

Take that nap.

Or sit in the garden with a cup of tea.

 
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Stop at that bench on your walk and just be for a bit. You deserve that. In fact, you need that. Finding resting spaces in your day is just as important as finding time for your work. 

 
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And while you are there in your favourite resting place, soak in every part of it with all of your senses. Build it into your memory. Then the next time you are stuck in that queue at the checkout you can close your eyes and return for a restful minute to your favourite resting place.

 
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